Happiness, like confidence, is a choice. So choose to be happy. By waking up in
the morning and choosing to be happy, you will improve your outlook on life and
therefore your willingness to take ‘risks’. That is the definition of confidence.
(And by the way, risk is subjective. What one person may think of as crazy
stupid, another will think of as a walk in the park.)
Ummm… Errr… Aaah… These are not the words of a confident person. Speak
with conviction, speak with clarity (both of speech and of thought), speak with
Fall in love with silence.
In order to achieve clarity of thought (see step 2), it is absolutely acceptable to
pause after someone else has spoken while you think of your reply. It is in fact
much better to think of your reply after they have spoken, than during. Not only
is it more polite, but it also allows you to actually listen to what they are saying.
Confidence is about reducing perceived risk and knowledge is the perfect tool to
do this. Knowledge can be accrued by listening to others. So stop talking and
start listening (in silence – especially in your mind).
Accept the opinion of others.
Once you have learned to listen to the person talking with you, learn to accept
their point of view. Developing confidence is about reducing risk, so once you do
not perceive any risk in the other person having a different viewpoint than
yours, the risk is gone and you can be confident. Everyone has different
experiences, different upbringings, different beliefs, so everyone thinks
differently about things. Once you fully grasp that fact, you understand that
knowledge gives confidence and that learning from others is knowledge, but
trying to impose your point of view, belief or way of thinking on someone
reflects a lack of confidence.
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